Ex-Victim Stories

Inspiring Stories of Women Who Claim Healing

What is an Ex-Victim?

An ex-victim is a person who:

  • recognizes they have been a victim of abuse and brokenness, either at the hand of a perpetrator or at their own hand
  • has significantly processed and healed from the brokenness
  • has made a commitment to themselves to protect themselves from harm in the future by learning, creating healthy boundaries and habits.
  • is willing to share their story of brokenness and healing


I don’t want to admit I’m a “Victim”
Tainted by abuse
Feeling irrational fear and shame
Defensive and jaded
Frigid, stoic, rude
Rejecting before I get rejected

I don’t want to admit I’m a “Victim”
Who was too weak
To get away, to fght, to stop the pain
To stand up to the bully
Who killed my innocence
Who massacred my soul

I don’t want to be the “Victim”
Making mistakes
That cause more abuse
Broken choices that hurt me
I end up hurting others
Instead of stopping the pain

I want to stop being a “Victim”
Attracting predators
Accepting abuse as my due
Putting myself at risk
Choosing to trust the wrong ones
Who just pretend to protect

Jesus, help me stop being a “Victim”
You became a victim for me
You hung naked on the cross
You bore my shame
You were bruised for my iniquities
By Your stripes, I am healed

I am no longer a “Victim”
Forgiven of sin
With wholeness of heart
Redeemed, healed and loved
My innocence restored My soul saved

I am now an “Ex-Victim”
I testify of His grace
I was lost but am found
I was shattered but am restored
I am flled with relentless love
I am sharing it with others just like me

Paula Wallace’s Story

Broken Vessel of Honor

Paula Wallace – Broken Vessel from The 315 Project on Vimeo.



Carla Armstrong’s Story

Finding Christ After Brokenness

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